Yes I’m finally going to do it !
It was going to be last weekend, but I never got round to putting these messages up on my blogs (!)… well that’s my excuse, and I’m sticking to it.
So on the basis that, from what I’ve seen, the blogging community is generally a fairly happy and supportive crowd… this is where you guys come in.
I’m going from 40+ a day straight to nothing… zip… zilch… so boy am I going to need some help !!! 🙂
I did give up for about 3 months some 20-odd years ago which (as it was over the Christmas period and the social life in those days was quite hectic) was quite an achievement, especially as we were in the middle of a major project at work at the time. Eventually, just as I reckon I was about 2 weeks from “cresting the hill” so to speak, after which it would have become a lot easier, my boss turned round to me one day at work and said “For ****’s sake, Tom, have a fag !” (that’s a cigarette in the UK, not a rent boy !)… and I did. I guess I really had become unbearable.
Life then was typical 80’s computer industry, semi-yuppy, boring-wifey, live life hard and to the limit.
Since then I have tried the patch occasionally, but I can’t get the buggers to light. I’ve tried the gum, but it tastes like old tobacco – so what’s the point, and in any case my teeth are starting to work loose.
But this time it’s different, I have a real purpose.
I have been making good progress with a particularly lovely, well educated, intelligent Chinese lady over the past few months who I met through one of the dating sites. (Don’t even think of saying it… I’ve even cammed with her at her [government department] office while she’s been at work). We have finally reached the point where we can say that our understanding of each other has reached equanimity and we are starting to make proper plans for the future. 🙂
The £65 ($125) a week that I am spending on cigarettes (plus even more with the tax hike in this week’s UK Budget) will go a long way towards paying for my trip to Nanning in the summer (wrong time of year, but it’s the only way to fit it into my work plans) and then to start boosting my income so that I can reasonably play my part in supporting us long term, even though her earning potential is greater than mine.
It’s Amanda’s birthday on Monday and this is my birthday present to her.
So not only is this a plea for help in supporting my wallet, and obviously my health, but it is an ongoing love story as well !
Hey… all that and you get it for free here on the interweb. What more could you want ?
So come on people… no patch, no gum, no going to “Smokers Anonymous”… (“Hello, I’m Tom, and I’m a smoker”. What’s anonymous about that ?) … just you and me and a mutual desire to make me a “smoke free zone“.
What do you say ?
p.s. Any advice or recommended reading on the following would also be appreciated…
- Should we get married in China or the UK ?
- Will Amanda need a work permit even though we are married ?
- Will her daughter be able to come over as a foreign student, and how ?
- Other procedural things I should be aware of… ?